Ever woken up and wondered if there is more to life? Me too.
Ever felt a deep yearning within that had you convinced there was something more? And yet… every day feels like Ground Hog day. Been there, too! In what feels like a prison, or marriage to mediocrity, clinging to ‘routine’ that you are shackled to and that deep down, you know is slowly killing you, you feel you are worth so much more. That there is so much more to life. You feel that close to it… and yet, its elusive. You look around you, and you feel like you’re on your own. You ask yourself ‘Am I really Happy? Everyone else seems happy…’
… or are they?
According to a recent Gallup poll only 18% of Aussies love their job, and 20% absolutely hate what they are doing. While I can’t help but wonder about the other 62%, I feel deep empathy and compassion for those caught in this kind of frustration. Imagine the melting pot of emotion that must be being felt by disgruntled employee and equally (if not moreso based on the stats above) disgruntled manager alike, as they work through the dynamic presented to them day after day, week after week, managing the fallout from this travesty. Further, a recent study conducted by Ernst & Young found that 3.5 million Australians are unproductive, costing the economy $41 billion in wages alone. No wonder there are so many restructures right now! Business is losing money hand over fist, and most of us know it, but are too apathetic (or fearful) to do anything about getting happy again – or we may not be able to make this week’s mortgage.
It is well known that Australians are one of the hardest working people on the planet, working longer and harder than every before… so what are we doing? Working ourselves into the ground in jobs we don’t really enjoy, paying for houses we can’t really afford (assuming we’re in the mortgage belt, many of us are forced to rent due to significant life changes) and generally doing things we don’t really want to do, with people we really don’t like, hanging on for grim death in jobs where for the mostpart, we’re not particularly productive if we are to read the above statistic correctly. Then if you take a step further back, what is this doing to your self esteem, and how then, is this impacting your family, your partner? Your children? What is this doing to society overall? Surely this can’t be sustainable. I think that you don’t need to be a rocket scientist or a Business Analyst to work out something has to change. Most, admittedly not all of us, have become lost in the madness. Somewhere in the midst of it all we’ve lost who we are, our sense of self, our identity and our passion. We know, deep down, that things have to change. And that change need not be earth shattering, or even life changing. But small, manageable changes that can make the world of difference to your outlook, your sanity and your peace of mind.
I speak to so many people who complain about being unhappy. That all they want is to be happy again, and that somehow the joy of every day living has left them. Their love life is shot, their boss is on their case, chained to their jobs thanks to their high gearing, they no longer know how to connect with their partner anymore, the kids ignore them, even the pets have lost interest in relating with them. And so, we ‘work’ harder and harder and harder, we stay longer at the office and for some of us, we find joy in our work; for those of us that don’t we find distractions – sometimes through addictions – like the internet, spending money we don’t have shopping, on alcohol, gambling, and so forth. Some of us turn to affairs outside our primary relationship, all the while just complicating our lives more and more to the point that the overactive butterfly of happiness continues to elude us… and yet, we continue to look to fill that void within externally… causing ourselves more and more pain, feeling more and more disconnected from what really matters.
So how do you turn it around? How do you bring things back into an equilibrium again? My mission in life is to help bring people in line with their true purpose. For nearly 30 years, I have helped people from all walks of life and all levels of an organisation achieve personal success by guiding, facilitating and empowering people to find their true purpose and align their journey with their passion in life and I would be delighted to help you.
Week by week in an adhoc fashion, I will be adding to my blog to share insight, thoughts and epiphanies as they become available, so that everyone may find the happiness and the balance that they seek in their lives. We all have the right to love what we do. By loving what you do, you need never ‘work’ another day in your life, and you too can have a Passionate Life!
Until next time
Executive Director – Life Coaching & Development, Training and Career Guidance